Every relationship needs some serious consideration
before getting on the ship. It’s either a fast but short ride or a slow but
longer ride. Which everyone, you need to be prepared. Getting the necessary
answers from the onset is enough to carry you some good distance before the weariness
and refreshing moments. If you are getting into a relationship, just be sure you
are on the right ship with these questions…
1. WHERE
AM I HEADED IN LIFE?
Where is he/she headed in life? You can’t just
decided to pick someone along in your life’s journey when you are not even sure
where you are headed. And when you are not sure where he/she is headed in life,
don’t follow, they will only be a drag. If your direction for life was to go
north, you can’t hope to travel anywhere with someone who was to go south. Even
if the follow you, once they realize that is not suppose to be the direction they
should be headed, they become a serious drag. You don’t need that.
Know what you want out of life. Know where you want
to go. Know where you want to be. When you are sure if where you are heading in
life, also be sure of where he/she is heading. At least let it be good enough
to jump in with you and travel along.
2. WHY AM I ENTERING INTO A RELATIONSHIP?
2. WHY AM I ENTERING INTO A RELATIONSHIP?
Sadly enough most people do not know why they want
to go into a relationship. While most others do not have a good right motive
for entering a relationship. Some of those motives are loneliness, fear of
being single, to be taken care of by someone else because they are wealthy etc.
But those are all wrong. Do not enter a relationship for any of those reason
else you won’t stay long and if you do, you will not enjoy any bit of it after
a while. Find a worth reason why you want to get into a
relationship with that person, as this will give you a clue to what your answer
will be for the last and most important question. If you want to have a happy
and exciting relationship, you have to first define the relationship by why you
both want to be in a relationship. Give him your and let her give you hers.
3. WHAT
DO I HAVE TO OFFER?
What you have to contribute to the success and well being of the relationship? If you have not, then you had better do. What are
your talents? What are your potentials? Have you any self worth? Do you love
yourself? Are you good at coping with stress and lack? How much can you
contribute to bring his/her dreams and aspirations into reality?
Since a relationship involves two people, the success
of it there rest on the individual positive input. Can you be capable to take
care of expenses when he is broke? Most importantly, do you have a life of your
own? How well have you been able to live your life/ because that is exactly how
well you will be able to help him/her live their lives. If you cannot weigh
your values and asset enough to measure up for the long road, better
reconsider.
4. WHAT
IS THE DESTINATION OF THIS RELATIONSHIP?
This is the most important question so I decided to put
it last so you have all day to think about it. Do not be fooled into believing
that when you stay together, the more it will be possible to see clearly where
you both are headed. That will be a total disaster! Its like driving in the fog
above a canyon, you don’t see better b driving deeper into it. Instead, it gets
less visible. You should begin charting the cause of your relationship fro the
onset. Don’t get into one and when it’s beginning to get boring and less
exciting you start asking where you both are headed. The destination of your
relationship determines how much you want to out into it and how determined you
are to see it to the best end. Anyone who is running a mile won’t go at the
same pace with someone running a sprint. chart your course and plot your map.
When you know this, then you are ready for a
relationship. Read on how to Build a strong and healthy relationship here.
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