Like
I said in the previous post about the Don'ts Of FIghting In A
Relationship, there're also some Do's about Fighting In A
Relationship. Having these both perfectly well will keep you from the wreck
that results from funny fights in every relationship.
If you are in an abusive relationship, please, do not think to apply this, cause the will make no difference.
The Do's of Fighting In A Relationship should include the following
Be Honest And Say What You Have In Mind
Not many people can do that. Yes! It’s the truth. Speaking your mind just the way you feel to your partner in a honest manner but its necessary. Whenever you are hurt, sad or angry it’s really necessary to speak about the way we feel deep (not the surface kind) inside.
There is no need to hold back anything as this will always create a breeding ground for bitterness and accumulated resentment that may always destroy our relationship in the end. Speaking our mind when we our sad, angry or feeling hurt always makes it easy for our partner to understand what is eating us up and proffer immediate solution to better the situation.
Listen To What Is Being Said
The worst of every fighting moment only always seems to intensify when we try to ward off (dismiss) what our partner is saying in the midst of an argument. Dismissing the words of our spouse when they are trying to say their mind to us always make them think we do not necessarily care at all and this always makes them in turn not give any listening ear to what we have to say when our turn comes. It is always best to keep our ears and mind open during the heat of an argument, it goes a long way to mean that you are really interested in making things up.
Bring Up Problems Before The Grow Into Huge Bitterness
Bottling the way we feel inside in our relationship always makes for bitter resentment. We shouldn’t always wait until when we are totally consumed by our hurt and be forced to become callous in our attitude and responds. It is better to bring things up before they get at us and in turn, out of hands. When you get angered by your partner, don’t let it stay within and eat you up, speak it to them to say your hurts out. When you feel you really have to talk, do so. When you feel some real bad emotions, let them out. Doing this relieves you of the long-term trouble of argument.
Practice Apology Again And Again And Again...
Yes! Practice! Make it a habit! Most couples in a relationship don’t really know how to apologize to their partner when they wrong them. They feel it will be really out of place to do that. Apologies go a long way to put things into check before they think of getting out of hand. As long as it took two people to fight, it should also be same for apologies. When you both apologize, no one loses. It’s a win-win situation. It strengthens your bond and respect for each other.
Become More Intimate, To The Next Level
After every argument, there is a need to come physically together again. This could be a hug and a kiss. This always soothes the heart and calms raging nerves. Taking it into the bedroom would not do any harm. This strengthens your bond and your love in a very special way. You know what I mean.
Read the Don't Of Fighting In A Relationship here...
