“At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.” ― Lao Tzu
Do you know who you are? Many people want to succeed and prosper in all they do, yet they sincerely fail in having knowledge of themselves. So many people just wonder through life without any sense of purpose as to why they are even living. It’s a sad thing though, that one lives every day of his or her life but does not take conscious reasoning to want to know who they are, what they want to do with the gift in their hand – life, who they want to be, what they want to be the next few years. Like a friend of mine would say, “they let others dream for them.”
The economy is always determining their happiness in life. People are always using their hands simply because they refuse to us their own head. They so much believe in who someone else is but have not consciousness of whom they are, what they are made of and they do not believe in themselves and their abilities! It is so sad because they are always sad, carrying long faces and still, want to flow with the crowd.
Always spending time everyday to ponder on who you are; what you want for life, what you want out of life, how you want to live your life, who you want to be, they places you want to go, how you want your relationship to be, etc. helps you prepare yourself for your tomorrow. Life never has to meet you unprepared! The rate at which people fail in virtually everything the ever embark on is very alarming. Ranging from relationships, aspirations, visions, goals, dreams, business etc. And this only speaks of one thing: they never prepared for what “tomorrow” held in stock for them. They only thought life was going to be like in the movies with the happy ending scene or like in the novels with the happy-ever-after closure. What they failed to see was that each of those ends where initiated by people involved in them. They do not just happen!
Spending time to think about you also helps you set clear goals for yourself which in turn keeps you motivated and inspired as your dreams are constantly in view and within reach with every accomplished goal bringing you one step closer. I go to bed ever night thinking on what difference I want to make about my life in the morning. What am going to add to my “personality profile” as I call it and what to get out. I make myself like the sculptor’s work: always cutting a little bit out of here and adding a little bit somewhere there. This makes every new day an exciting one knowing I have something positive to work on.
Here, take a quick survey on yourself giving honest answers to everyone of these questions.
1. WHO ARE YOU?
Ever taken that much time to ask yourself that? Who am I? If someone should ask me, beyond my name, who am I what would I say? Are you truly conscious of who you really are? Well, if someone was to ask me that, I would not even wait for him or her to finish, I will be talking a long time on who I am. Knowing who you are, knowing you talents, your weaknesses, everything about yourself is a good start towards discovering who you really are. Some people just base their mindset on who people have told them they are and that ends it all for them. Living without any knowledge of yourself leads to a misconstrue way of seeing one’s self, especially, if you have a low self-esteem and self-confidence.
I read a quote once somewhere that said, “Know thyself, and thou shall know all the secrets of the gods and of the universe”. Another said, “Know thyself. For what else is there to know?”
2. WHAT ARE YOUR DREAMS AND ASPIRATIONS?
Dreams are the best parts of you that are not yet become a reality. Not the ones you get when you sleep per se. Dreams make your life exciting, they are the things you do to turn the negativity everyone faces in this world to become something that makes you happy and stronger.
Most people do not dream. They are scared of dreaming. And you know the even truer fact? Dreaming does not get you hurt. It does not harm you. So why not begin to dream and keep dreaming big. The bigger they are the better the chance of getting them into the real world. Big dreams do not mean the task of getting them to fulfilled is so killing…No! Big dreams mean big chances of making them into reality!
Do not be scared of dreaming just because your dreams seem too big to achieve. Keep dreaming big. I tell people, if you want to kill a great man so easily, take is dreams away from him. Someone said, “…When dreams die, life is a broken wing bird which cannot fly”. You want to be happy and fulfilled…? Start dreaming! And keep dreaming big!
3. WHAT DO YOU WANT IN LIFE?
I like to define goals as little bits and pieces of our dreams from which we make up our whole dreams. Setting achievable goals for your life moves you step after step closer to your dreams. Goals are stepping-stones going upwards leading to our dreams. Without them, bringing your dreams to reality will be so massive and burdensome. Goals make things easy and keep the whole picture of your dreams in view.
What are your goals for life? What achievable goals have you set to get you closer to achieving your dreams in life? Start setting goals for yourself and discover how much you can really accomplish in every passing day.
If you will answer that question honestly, you will discover there are two sides alone: you are either putting your passion into full use or simply hiding away in the closet of your heart. To discover who you are, you must learn to do the things you love to do no matter how crazy they are or how disapproving everyone thinks it is. If it is something you love doing, bring it on!
Stop the personality sabotage of hiding yourself away from the world. Do not be like mystique in X-Men: First Classic movie just because you think no one likes what you do. (Yeah! Am a movie fan! Love watching science fictions).
5. IS THERE A VERSION OF YOU YOU DON'T KNOW EXIT? IS ALL YOU ARE ALL YOU WANT TO BE?
Many people really bottle up who they truly are or want they want to be deep within them. Most of them do it unconscious of what they are doing to themselves. You want to discover you? Then stop hiding yourself beneath all that rubble. Let that person you want to be deep within come up and take some fresh breath. Have you ever done something and at the end of it you actually said, “Wow, did I just do that?” If it has never happened with you, it has been always so with me. Always? Yes! Am always doing new things to see the part of me that really exit yet I know nothing about.
Do not let fear of the future, fear of uncertainty, and the negative things people have told you about yourself or personality to weigh on you. Do not allow your past, something that happened in the past make you hide yourself away because it reminds you of the past.
For myself, I have a version I really want to live out. Yes! A desire to say something to people, in other to better their lives. To enlighten them, to teach them. To act those things I want to say maybe in the movies and I want to also write them in books. Try new things and watch yourself unfold.
6. WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE IF MONEY DIDN'T MATTER?
Oh! Did I hit the spot that hard? People actually think life is nothing without money. Money rules everything. Money solves every problem. Just this thought alone makes you abandon all the excitement life hold in stock. When you can understand living life is not about money but it about what your life would be like absent it, embracing this part of you open your eyes to a new reality of who you really are. Most people just want to work and work so they can always have money to fix their problems.
There is a lot more you could do in life even if there was no money. Don’t get it all wrong, money is good. It always takes care of our material wants. But, how about our emotional wants? The satisfaction you feel when you just feel like doing something wild, lovely and crazy! Just carefree! Money will always solve your problems but cannot solve all of it. Sometimes I think without money life would be so much exciting, creative and adventurous. Everyone is going to want to create something to his benefit, new ideas, and new thinking. This will make you feel excited, like you are going on an adventure. Find out what life would be like for you if money never mattered.
7. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU DID NOT HAVE TO WORK? WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE IF YOUR JOB DIDN'T MEAN EVERYTHING TO YOU?
Work! Work! Work! That is what spells the lives of so many people. They have condition their mind to believe that if they do not work in that manner, something will always go wrong. Money will not be coming in. They work so hard that they never stop to think again if there is anything else they could do if they didn’t have to bury themselves in their work. Do you believe in being a workaholic? I will advice that you take a break and look inward. Find out others things about you outside your work and you will not always have to worry about being laid off by the company!
What would you be doing if you did not have to work to earn a living? Will your life be without any kind of excitement? Will you just simply wander the face of the earth doing nothing else but work? The truth is, there is so much inside of you that you are yet realize. There is something special in everyone God created. He never creates junks! You could be planting a garden, helping in the community, etc.
I know my life will certainly be an exciting. If I did not have to work at all, I would paint pictures, take photographs, write everyday here, coach someone, speak to teenagers and so much more. I have met people like that who like to live every day absent work yet still a have a lot of things to do with their life.
8. HOW DO YOU LOVE THINGS TO BE DONE? HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT GETTING THINGS DONE?
Not everyone is to become an employee. Not everyone is to work for people. That is quite different from taking tutorship from someone or learning from someone. Have you ever thought of how you got certain things done your way and they became faster and easier? The many inventions and latest technologies we have today is just a result of this thinking: how to get things done your own way!
Start out on a new task and see how much you can get things done your own way, surprisingly, it may even make things easier for you and for everyone else. You could even end up leaving for the world a new discovery on how to get something done that way! This still works on bringing out the good in you. Helping you discover the better part of who you are. There is so much you could get done if only you could use your imagination and creativity.
9. WHAT WOULD YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE LIKE IN THE NEXT 1 TO 3 YEARS? HAVE YOU ANY PLANS FOR YOUR LIFE?
As serious as it sounds, many people do not know what they want their life to be like in the next 2 to 5 years. They do not know where they want to be, what they want to be doing then, who they hopefully want to be with. They just live from day to day, week-to-week, month to month and year to years!
Find out what you will want your life to be like in the next 1 to 3 years, or you could even stretch it to 5. What do you want to be doing with your life then? Who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve within that pace of time? Allow yourself drift into the future…do you like what you see? If yes, what are you doing about getting there? If no, what are your actions plans to change that future?
10. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR FREE TIME? OUTSIDE WORK, WHAT'S YOUR LIFE LIKE?
One way to discover yourself is asking the question of what you do with your free time. Many people complain of not knowing where to venture into in the business world to succeed and the lots who have already embarked on journeys they cannot give a good account for, yet they do not know what they do with their free times.
Watching and studying your basic and most engaged activity during your free time could really fascinate you on the things you will see. You may have never noticed how good you where playing a guitar or painting a picture or taking photographs. These are things can always earn you a few extra money to help your need if they are given the right channeling and push.
What you do with your free time is one thing that helps you know yourself better at every other time. Some people are very creative in their free time, when they finally have time to get away from something naturally they wouldn’t want to be doing.
You could take some tips from Diana Sawyer's advice
Do not let fear of the future, fear of uncertainty, and the negative things people have told you about yourself or personality to weigh on you. Do not allow your past, something that happened in the past make you hide yourself away because it reminds you of the past.
For myself, I have a version I really want to live out. Yes! A desire to say something to people, in other to better their lives. To enlighten them, to teach them. To act those things I want to say maybe in the movies and I want to also write them in books. Try new things and watch yourself unfold.
6. WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE IF MONEY DIDN'T MATTER?
Oh! Did I hit the spot that hard? People actually think life is nothing without money. Money rules everything. Money solves every problem. Just this thought alone makes you abandon all the excitement life hold in stock. When you can understand living life is not about money but it about what your life would be like absent it, embracing this part of you open your eyes to a new reality of who you really are. Most people just want to work and work so they can always have money to fix their problems.
There is a lot more you could do in life even if there was no money. Don’t get it all wrong, money is good. It always takes care of our material wants. But, how about our emotional wants? The satisfaction you feel when you just feel like doing something wild, lovely and crazy! Just carefree! Money will always solve your problems but cannot solve all of it. Sometimes I think without money life would be so much exciting, creative and adventurous. Everyone is going to want to create something to his benefit, new ideas, and new thinking. This will make you feel excited, like you are going on an adventure. Find out what life would be like for you if money never mattered.
7. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU DID NOT HAVE TO WORK? WHAT WOULD YOUR LIFE BE LIKE IF YOUR JOB DIDN'T MEAN EVERYTHING TO YOU?
Work! Work! Work! That is what spells the lives of so many people. They have condition their mind to believe that if they do not work in that manner, something will always go wrong. Money will not be coming in. They work so hard that they never stop to think again if there is anything else they could do if they didn’t have to bury themselves in their work. Do you believe in being a workaholic? I will advice that you take a break and look inward. Find out others things about you outside your work and you will not always have to worry about being laid off by the company!
What would you be doing if you did not have to work to earn a living? Will your life be without any kind of excitement? Will you just simply wander the face of the earth doing nothing else but work? The truth is, there is so much inside of you that you are yet realize. There is something special in everyone God created. He never creates junks! You could be planting a garden, helping in the community, etc.
I know my life will certainly be an exciting. If I did not have to work at all, I would paint pictures, take photographs, write everyday here, coach someone, speak to teenagers and so much more. I have met people like that who like to live every day absent work yet still a have a lot of things to do with their life.
8. HOW DO YOU LOVE THINGS TO BE DONE? HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT GETTING THINGS DONE?
Not everyone is to become an employee. Not everyone is to work for people. That is quite different from taking tutorship from someone or learning from someone. Have you ever thought of how you got certain things done your way and they became faster and easier? The many inventions and latest technologies we have today is just a result of this thinking: how to get things done your own way!
Start out on a new task and see how much you can get things done your own way, surprisingly, it may even make things easier for you and for everyone else. You could even end up leaving for the world a new discovery on how to get something done that way! This still works on bringing out the good in you. Helping you discover the better part of who you are. There is so much you could get done if only you could use your imagination and creativity.
9. WHAT WOULD YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO BE LIKE IN THE NEXT 1 TO 3 YEARS? HAVE YOU ANY PLANS FOR YOUR LIFE?
As serious as it sounds, many people do not know what they want their life to be like in the next 2 to 5 years. They do not know where they want to be, what they want to be doing then, who they hopefully want to be with. They just live from day to day, week-to-week, month to month and year to years!
Find out what you will want your life to be like in the next 1 to 3 years, or you could even stretch it to 5. What do you want to be doing with your life then? Who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve within that pace of time? Allow yourself drift into the future…do you like what you see? If yes, what are you doing about getting there? If no, what are your actions plans to change that future?
10. WHAT DO YOU DO WITH YOUR FREE TIME? OUTSIDE WORK, WHAT'S YOUR LIFE LIKE?
One way to discover yourself is asking the question of what you do with your free time. Many people complain of not knowing where to venture into in the business world to succeed and the lots who have already embarked on journeys they cannot give a good account for, yet they do not know what they do with their free times.
Watching and studying your basic and most engaged activity during your free time could really fascinate you on the things you will see. You may have never noticed how good you where playing a guitar or painting a picture or taking photographs. These are things can always earn you a few extra money to help your need if they are given the right channeling and push.
What you do with your free time is one thing that helps you know yourself better at every other time. Some people are very creative in their free time, when they finally have time to get away from something naturally they wouldn’t want to be doing.
You could take some tips from Diana Sawyer's advice
- Do what you love.
- Do it in the most exciting place.
- Make sure it helps people.
