"... But for Adam there was not found a help met for him " - Genesis 2:20
The only thing that makes a relationship exciting and lovely is when you enter into one with a mindset of "What can I do to add value and worth?" Rather than, "What are all the things I can get from this?"
Every minute you spend thinking up new ways and new ideas to spice up your relationship makes you loose the consciousness of being "totally" self centered and creates in you an excitement thinking of the new things you are about to introduce into your relationship. This mindset alone drives boredom far from you as your mind is busy exploring new things. Every relationship got bad or good right from the onset. Why? The mindset.
When you enter a relationship with the mind of "What can I offer or contribute?" you always feel happier, stronger and more courageous. Not that bad times won't come. Bad times are bound to come and they will. But you will always have what to offer to solve the challenge. Your partner only gets better, happier and stronger because of you – your mindset.
But when we enter into a relationship with the mind of "I want someone who..." (complete it for yourself), everything will always go wrong. These are the people that talk about compatibility in a relationship.
Truly speaking, there is no need for compatibility in relationships. I mean compatibility in the sense of self absorbed concerns and not mutual benefits. This is what creates the room you need to fill in your partners world - the imperfections of your partner. And, Yes, the person you are in a relationship with has a world of their own! Just because they are with you doesn't make their world gone and forgotten.
What is missing or lacking in the life of your partner is what you should be filling up NOT COMPLAINING ABOUT! Relationship should be to compliment not to complete. Relationships is about two whole people merging into one. Not two incomplete, half bred fellows looking for who to make them whole.
Don't try to be like your partner and don't try to make them be like you. Help then bring out the best of who they "already are". Yes! Who they are deep within! Have you ever heard "when you love a woman right, she becomes ten times more of whatever you give her"? I believe it and I think the same works for a man. Partners in a relationship are not duplicates of each other but one! How? When they fill in the missing gap in each others world .
"No man feels comfortable in the arms of a woman who behaves like him "
- T. D. Jakes (The lady, Her lover and Her Lord)
- T. D. Jakes (The lady, Her lover and Her Lord)
Tips: Get off the high horse of "I want someone who will give me...make me...buy me..." and smell the roses of I want someone who I can give this...and make that...and buy those...." Stop complaining! Start appreciating. If you are still unsure what to expect in a relationship read this.
Still working on the Book "Stuff No One Told You About Loving And Being Loved". Read some excerpts here...
