Have you been trying to understand why the people who at one time so much loved you and cared so much for you left you suddenly? Have you been stuck trying to figure our why they even came into your life and make it into such a bliss only to leave it, shattering the entire reality of the bliss? Have you spend night after night crying yourself to sleep asking yourself why why why? What did it happen? Why did it have to end? What did you do wrong? And on and on and on and on...
One of the things that makes breakup or divorce so hard is the fact that we just can't seem to understand why they decided to live, even when, for us, everything seemed so OK and perfect. We keep going over the love and shared emotions and beautiful moments in our heads again and again and again, longing for it and wondering what we did wrong. This reality is not only true for breakups and divorce, it hold same for the death of a loved one. There is nothing that comes so close to making in a fleeting moment value the place a person occupies in our live like the moment when we just lost someone we loved or who so loved us to the cruelty of death. Nothing on earth teaches such importance.
But you need to understand something about all of this: people are only in our lives for 3 reasons. Either to be a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
It is never easy, and it doesn't get easier as time go by. There will always be tears, followed by sadness, and sometimes just a deep feeling of loneliness. You keep in contact for awhile and then one day one of you just stops writing. There maybe no fights, no reason, you both just stopped. I learned that friends come and go, and your life goes on. Anyone else out there experience the same thing? Ever wonder why? Perhaps this poem will shed some light on things for you:
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
When you figure out which one it is,
you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
to provide you with guidance and support;
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. — Unknown
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. — Unknown
