"I literally have to remind myself all the time, that being afraid of things going wrong isn't the way to make things go right." - Unknown
More than 95% of people who think their partners are unfaithful always in some way end finding out their partner is unfaithful. It goes both ways for the man and the woman alike. And the funny part of this is, we actually help them become unfaithful.
In writing this, am not referring to someone out there who is bent on being unfaithful to their partner and am not referring to someone whose mind is made up and always saying “I want to be unfaithful”. Yes, there are people in a relationship who consciously say they are going to be unfaithful and from such people you often hear them talking like this “there is nowhere in the bible that says you cannot have more than one partner” or “there is no crime against a having more than one person in your life.”
NO. Am writing this to those who have always thought consistently that their partner in some way is cheating and how you can change that. And if you are unfaithful, how you can get yourself out of the cycle of being unfaithful without having to fail again and again and keep on having to go confess it over again to your pastor or partner.
Would you believe me with when I say this, if you have a faithful partner but then YOU have this constant and persistent idea that they are unfaithful to you, you will come to realize one day that they ARE unfaithful? “Why is that?” you may ask. Well, it’s simply there law of attraction giving you what you want to see. It’s simply the universe pulling events and circumstances so your thought can come true.
Every time you think and dwell on the idea you partner is cheating on you, you are unconsciously creating situations that will make that thought a reality. By that I mean you actually created the happenings of your partner’s life, not in their life but in yours. How? Their sudden unfaithfulness is just a product, a manifestation of what you actually want to see and have always been creating in your thoughts.
We are what we constantly think and talk about whether consciously or unconsciously. Everything that is happening around you is what you have created for yourself.
Sometimes I listen to people tell me “you are different; you are not the person I used to know”. They say this in the negative though. I tell them, “well, that’s true. I am whatever you think me to be. I am TO YOU an exact copy of the image you carry about me in your head. But I am not so to everyone else.” If you think am bad and harsh and rude, every time we see and talk, that will be the result. You will always find that am bad and harsh and rude to you and you alone.
So what does this say about you and your partner? Your partner is TO YOU whatever you think they are. People who complain about their partners always end up realizing that they just keep on complaining more and more. It simply the universe creating situations and circumstances to keep you complaining because to the universe you are just saying when you complain, “give me something more to complain about this situation or this person; I enjoy complaining”.
You may notice that I have been using the words “is” and “are” in the present tense when making reference to your partner being unfaithful. The reason is this, your partner may never have been unfaithful all the while you have been thinking and believing that they have been. But because ALL THINGS [irrespective of what it is] are possible to the person who believe has presented you with the proof that “your thoughts” were true all along, not “your partner has been cheating all along”.
So how do you deal with a cheating partner? It is very simply.
1. Stop thinking and talking about them as being unfaithful.
2. Start thinking and talking and believing they are faithful even if they are not.
3. Live your life like they were never cheating. Be happy. Be thankful for them. See them from a different perspective and be glad.
4. Walk Away if you find out that though you are constantly doing rule 1 – 3 but the outcome is still the same. Then, it is no longer you creating that. He/she is creating their life with their own thoughts for which you cannot control.
The thoughts I am presenting in this book my not be what you expected but it may be just the thing you needed.
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