Depression like
jealousy, envy and every other negative emotion come from within and begins to eat
us up deep within gradually, until it finally shows in our mood and reaction to
circumstances. One of the greatest
things people with negative emotions suffer is mood swing.
You practically have no control over your mood. You could be very happy, sitting and chatting with your friends and all of a sudden, you become angry or sad or start shedding tears etc. Many people struggle with heavy feeling upon their heart through their life and some, when they can take it no longer end up committing suicide.
You practically have no control over your mood. You could be very happy, sitting and chatting with your friends and all of a sudden, you become angry or sad or start shedding tears etc. Many people struggle with heavy feeling upon their heart through their life and some, when they can take it no longer end up committing suicide.
I had
struggled with the feeling of depression for a long time in my life. There where
time in my life, for no apparent reason I will feel this sudden sadness coming over
me in a manner that depicts the movement of the clouds when there is going to
be a heavy down pour. Bo matter how bright my day had been, I will watch
helplessly as this dark cloud slowly and steadily beclouding the happiness I
was feeling, the merriment there was in the heart. Everything about me in a
matter of minutes turns to become the most saddening things happening around
me.
There is this
feeling off hurt and pain the evades my entire being and causes me to begin to
weep for what is never really there. My thoughts begin to drift away to how bad
people have hurt me, the terrible things that I have been through. Every negative
thought just pours into my heart in torrents and soon, I am crying and clutching
my heart for the pains which I was beginning to feel deep within me. I was
feeling the pain as though I have been physically shot or stabbed. This was
affecting every area of my life and it wasn’t making me a better person either.
Having discovered
how this was affecting everything around and about me negatively, I knew I had
to make a change; these are some of the things which helped my deal with that
part of me.
1. LOOK OUT FOR DEPRESSION TRIGGERS
Every bad
emotion has a trigger. Someone or something triggers the feeling of depression
and sadness within us. As it where in mine, the feeling of depression was
always triggered every time I was lost in loneliness or whenever I felt
rejected by someone. Look out for what
brings that feeling of sadness and depression and prevent yourself from always
getting there. If being alone in a place make you begin to feel all alone
and all sad, try and go for a walk and just keep yourself busy.
People could
be responsible (they could be this trigger). Negative people around you are
always trying to prove a point by making you hurt and feel terrible. If you have
such people around you, you don’t have to be around them especially when they
are always jesting or throwing mockeries at you. Because when they are able to
get through to you, you will end up feeling depressed about what they just did.
2. WATCH WHAT YOU THINK:
Your thought
becomes you. I realized that just before I launched into this horrific state of
feeling completely helpless and hopeless, I always preceded them with negative
thoughts. Thoughts of hopelessness and helplessness. As I was looking at the
things that were making life hurting and unbearable for me, I began drifting slowly in to the physical realities
of my thoughts.
As I said before,
“you are what you think.” There is every need to be very cautious what we
think. Practicing mindfulness is a good way of keeping your thoughts in the
present. Become mindful of the things that are happening in your mind in the
moment. When you keep putting your thoughts right into the things that makes
you depressed, you always become consumed by it.
3. STOP TRYING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE:
Jealousy and envy will do you no good. As I trying
to force myself to fit into someone’s shoes, someone I considered better than
me, the feeling of sadness always gets a grip of me. I began feeling total
frustration as I was always thinking I couldn’t be as good as someone else.
Stop trying
to become someone. You are unique enough to your best. Trying to become some
else is one way of getting depressed. Whenever we are trying to be like someone, we are leaving our own strength
and authority to be commanded by someone else. I get sad when we cannot meet up
to standard.
4. GET RID OF SELF PITY AND FEELING OF
HELPLESSNESS:
Looking for people’s
pity always makes you vulnerable as everything they say always makes us feel
they say it because of us. I remember how much I used to complain about things
that have just gone wrong, and how bad everything was getting just because I wanted
to get pity and sympathy from people. It was not good for me. Because whenever I
didn’t get the pity I wanted I began thinking that no one cared about how I felt,
and therefore, I became sad and depressed.
When bad
things happen, don’t always go about looking for pity from other. Learn to bear
it and solve it alone. The people we want pity from have enough of problems to
deal with themselves, and may not always be there to pity us. I started by telling
myself, “I refuse to wait for people to come tell me sorry before I forgave
them. I refuse the let apologies make me feel good.” Because that was a good
way of feeling good after bad things happened. I realized getting sympathy was
not what was best for my condition; I had to let it go.
5. EMBRACE THE WORLD:
There is
nothing to worry about in life. There is no point brooding over matters to
which we have no control over. People will always want to offend you; in short,
things that offend you will come. But it is not those things that counts, what
counts is what you decided to make out of those things. Embracing the world
means you have comes to terms with life and you
no longer allow your actions or emotions to be controlled by people: Not
even depression!
Bad things
sometime happen to good people, not because we don’t hurt others we say we do
not expect our self to get hurt. No! You have no control of the past, whatever
went wrong in the past let it stay in the past. There is no point worrying
about the troubles of the future. The future is what you make of it today. Let the
problems of today not stop you from feeling good about yourself and about
everyone else. You may also want to read on "Forgetting The Past And Moving On"
